My thesis supervisor hates me

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My thesis supervisor hates me

Share via Email Even as mature, independent people, my students still needed clear achievable milestones. There is no reassuring structure of courses and exams, only the need for a thesis. Research points to high levels of depression among PhD students.

PhD vivas are unfair and I am paying the price Read more Consciously or not, new supervisors tend to draw on their own experiences. I have a PhD so I can reasonably say that my supervisors were successful role models.

I am fond of telling the farcical stories of my first supervisor, who forgot that I was his student two years running.

Nevertheless, I was in awe of him and now, more than 15 years later, I still am. His confidence in me was inspiring. By the time I became a lecturer, academic practice courses were common.

They taught me some technical rules and requirements but nothing about the practical processes involved in teaching, mentoring and career-building a fellow human.

I started well with my first PhD student, using exercises designed to give him something concrete to achieve while gaining the skills and techniques of the trade.

Then came the moment where the student should become the master and I had no idea how to evolve the relationship. I kept organising meetings, filling in forms, looking at their projects, but not really helping at all My student did somehow finish, graduate and become independent.

I suspect he just assumed that as I gained more students and responsibilities I simply became too busy. I failed to see that even as mature, independent people, my students still needed clear achievable milestones and objectives and celebrations when they reached them.

Before I had finished supervising my first doctoral student, I had my second; by the time my second had finished, I had six. I built a research group but I had no more idea about how to manage a team than an individual. These students were also costing a lot in kit and conferences, giving me even less time to worry about supervision.

Like my supervisors before me, I was technically successful — all my students passed on time and within budget — but in practice they struggled, feeling lost, unsupported and sometimes depressed. I kept organising meetings, filling in forms, looking at their projects, but not really helping at all.

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I tried to organise informal occasions — my poker night was so badly attended that my cat won several games. Instinctively I was trying to develop relatedness. Yes, they helped each other, but they also lacked privacy and space, and spent part of the time wanting to kill each other.

I should have given them autonomy — their own offices budget allowing and a communal coffee room or lunch break. Bad PhD supervisors can ruin research. So why aren't they accountable? Read more Every one of my students got depressed at the beginning of their second year.

They reached a point where they finally understood what they were trying to do, but did not yet believe that they could do it.

My thesis supervisor hates me

I wanted them to know that this was normal. Looking back, perhaps what they were missing was the feeling of competence. Instead I put them in buddy groups and told them their feelings of incompetence would pass. I tried so hard to be a leader that I forgot to be a coach.

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Gates of Vienna has moved to a new address. During my thesis committee meetings, I’d present my work, answer questions, and then watch my advisor stare at me blankly when I asked him how close I was to graduating.

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He said to me once that you have to create your own support network - and so a little while back I accepted that my 'proper' supervisor did nothing for me, but he did everything. Now I feel extremely lucky. Approximately 80% of grown-ups with Aspergers and High Functioning Autism (HFA) do not have full-time jobs – not because they can’t do the work, but because they often have difficulty being socially acceptable while they get the work done.

Many adults with Aspergers and HFA have a hard time. This post, written by a PhD student, who wishes to stay anonymous, was sent to me late last year.

Due to my new job, it’s taken me a long time to edit it down and make sure it .

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